I’m coming in hot today. Don’t say I didn’t warn you.
This is one of those blog posts that might make you mad. I’m sorry for that, but I feel like if I don’t make someone mad every once in a while, I’m probably not doing my job well.
So let’s get down to it. Entitlement.
We are not entitled to feel good while we grow. Sometimes we have to do things we don’t want to do. Sometimes these things are not easy, and don’t make us feel happy.
A client said to me recently, “I should have lost more weight by now”. She was definitely not happy, and her words struck a chord with me.
Anytime the thought in your head begins with “they should” or “I should” or “it should”, it reeks of entitlement.
I catch myself doing it all the time as well.
The definition of entitlement is feeling that you have the right to do or have what you want, without having to work for it, just because of who you are.
Take a minute and think about your thoughts of entitlement. Have you ever thought:
- This should be easier
- I should be thinner
- I should be able to eat whatever I want
Back to my client that thought she should have been further along in her weight loss. When she stopped indulging in the thoughts of impatience and frustration, she found herself back on track and accepted the process that WAS working for her.
Create your own list of “shoulds” around your eating and weight, and title it “My Favorite Excuses to Not Lose Weight”. Let’s take notice and get rid of the entitlement thoughts that can stop us from progressing on our journey.
